My Avoidant Boyfriend Asked For A Break

 by Yumay Chang

In this episode, I answer this question from a viewer:


I'm Anxiously Attached, and my boyfriend is Avoidantly Attached. We've been together for about a year or so.


Recently he told me that he's feeling overwhelmed. He just got a new job, and he said that he's having a hard time making it all work and feels like taking a break from our relationship between his boys, work, and me. I am devastated. He's the first guy I fell in love with in a long time, but I also know that Avoidants need more space than us Anxious types. Should I say to him, "I understand how you feel, but please make up your mind, so I'm not left wondering what's going on?" I hope this doesn't push him further away, but not knowing is killing me, and I don't know what I'll do in the meantime.

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Yumay Chang

My name is Yumay Chang, and I run Life Is Love School, a global support group for childhood trauma survivors. I had a challenging childhood, and I know what it’s like to feel not good enough and not lovable. I learned through over two decades of research and plenty of trial and error how to heal so I can live a life of joy, love, and purpose. Now I help women that are successful at work but are unfulfilled in their personal lives do the same so they can also shine their brightest.


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